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The Destructive Power of Regret

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The Destructive Power of Regret

The definition of regret:

REGRET is a sense of sorrow about events in the past, usually wrongs committed or errors made. Regret is distress of mind, sorrow for what has been done or failed to be done:

The term: tohavenoregrets.Implies a sense of having sinned but gaining a deep and sincere feeling of sorrow for and hatred of the sin we have committed with a strong {but humble} determination not to sin again

Grieve for your regrets. When we feel regret, we re-live our guilt, sadness or anger over and over again. Allowing yourself to experience these feelings fully with the intention of moving forward can help you stop revisiting them.

Stop burying your regrets! – you are burying them alive!

Recognize what you have learned or gained. When you find yourself thinking of the regret, turn your thoughts to the things you have learned and the opportunities that are now yours - even if they are not what you would have preferred. There is always a lesson even in pain and sadness. Look for the lesson and focus on it instead of “what might have been”.

When the devil tries to draw you back into the painful memories of your past, put your finger in his face in Jesus name and say this…

“Thank you Satan, for reminding me what it was like when you were in charge of my life…”

That was what I did but it is not who I am. I am the blood bought property of Christ Jesus. I am a new creation. The old has gone and the new has come.

2 Corinthians 7:10 tells us that:

10 Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.


 I was born in Stamford, Texas in 1944 and shortly after moved to Meridian, Ms where I grew up. I attended Highland Elementary, Kate Griffin Jr. High,Meridian High School and went on to four years at Livingston State Teachers College inLivingston, Ala {now called UWA}. After leaving college I entered the feild of retailmanagement with F.W. Woolworth, then Woolco, then TG& Y, then Wal-Mart and finally Marvin's Home Center Stores. That career spanned over 30 years of my life. Early in mycareer {1966} I married my wife Pamela Smith Haynes from Shucktown, Ms. {that's right she was a country girl}. We had four children - Virginia, Tammy, Susan and Asa.Unfortunately for me and particularly for my wife and family I began a downward spiralover those 30 years that led me into behaviors centered totally around the lust of myeyes, the needs of my flesh and the pride of life that turned me into a dark and depraved man, husband and father. In 1996 when my family could take it no longer, my wife asked me for a divorce and my children basicly disowned me and then ordered me to get out and dont come back. Only then did I become willing to accept how deep into depravity I had sunk. And just when I though all was lost I met a man named Christ Jesus. He has not only saved me, saved my marriage and my family but He has literally transformed me into a totally new creation. What I once thought was the end of everything I now know was the BEGINNING of everything. Because I am so grateful for His mercy and loving kindness I have purposed along with my wife and family to spend the rest of my days on this earth crying out to hopeless and hurting individuals and families that no matter how bad it seems - Christ can redeem it, heal it and restore it. Hence my wife Pam and I founded Righteous Oaks Recovery Center for Men in Chunky, Ms in 2001 and Jacobs Well Recovery Center for Women in Poplarville, Ms in 2005.